Being a Bat Melech is More Than Just Dressing the Part

A Bat-Melech (daughter of a king) does not only dress regally (and modestly), but also ACTS regally and modestly as well....

A Bat-Melech is not just some label given to someone for being a jewish girl/woman. It represents and symbolizes so much more. 

It represents someone that always treats others with respect, the way they would like to be treated. It represents someone that behaves like the daughter of a king, regal in action and dress. 

This representation of  regal act embodies every aspect of your life. A Bat-Melech, a Princess is always calm, has patience and is humble. 

In the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch it says: 

 "There are certain character traits from which man must distance himself, entirely, rather than walk along the middle road. These character qualities, arrogance and anger, are sinful and cause one to stumble in other negative character traits which may lead one to transgress prohibitions of the Torah and forfeit the fulfillment of imperative mitzvot."

"In contrast, there are certain traits to which man must cling, as they are the source and foundation of many other mitzvot. These positive attributes include humility and modesty which are the glory of man as they calm the soul and make man wise."

When a person thinks of their ideal role model in terms of personality and character, who do they think of? 

Who is the person that everyone gravitates toward? 

A person who is arrogant and angry?

or the person who is always smiling, kind, and giving?

of course, we would all rather hang around with the second of those two. 

That is the true definition of a princess.

In the movie Cinderella, there were the two wicked stepsisters and stepmothers.

although they were the ones that were supposedly living the comfortable life, they seemed to always be tense and upset.

They were also depicted in the movie as clumsier and less graceful than cinderella, even though they had all sorts of lessons while cinderella was washing floors and doing their laundry all day.

Cinderella, although forced to live her life as a servant, didn't let this affect her to behave as one as well. She did all her mundane chores still with the gracefulness of a princess.

If we had to choose between hanging out with cinderella or the wicked stepsisters, we would definitely choose cinderella. 

And that is because of her pleasant, princess-like personality.

VS.

In this society, we are all servants to our desires, and servants to the rituals of american society we are forced to go through (like the secular new years, for example).

We should not let these things affect us and make us think that it is okay to behave in the way that the media tells us to.

We are Bat-Melachot, we are above that and we have to treat ourselves and our neshamot with the respect that royalty such ourselves deserve. 

The Torah is like our "users manual". Hashem created us, and then he created the Torah so that we can "run" correctly. 

Be'H may we all continue striving to become closer to Hashem, our King as we get closer and closer to the times of Maschiach, may we see the redemption in our times, AMEN. 

-Sharon & Dorit :)